Hello! We are at the end of October already! I hope that this end of the month check-in finds you all well.
For my academic EFS clients (and parents), school is well under way. We are working to identify best planning and prioritizing strategies as we navigate schedules and preferences. Many of you are still resistant to having a planner, but all have acknowledged the importance of somehow/somewhere writing down what needs to get done and when it is due. Using a google calendar, the notes app, or even a planning app like Tiimo, Evernote, or Thrusday could be motivation to start managing your schedule better. ( Even if right now you are keeping your head above water, creating a routine around how you plan and organize your days will serve you moving forward when things get hard.) If anyone wants to spend a session or two exploring these options together, just say the word. I have a lengthy list of planning tools. In the meantime, our sessions together enable you to focus on your assignments coming up, organize, plan, and prioritize your schedule, and analyze what is working for you (and what isn’t working).
We have talked a good deal about the “dangers” of multitasking, and I know that many of you are trying very hard to put your phones to the side when you are doing hw and studying. Using the Freedom app or the Forest app can help with that too. As humans, we are designed to focus on ONE THING at a time. Switching between tasks (or checking your phone during tasks) result in significantly measurable attention deficits.
- Multitasking is associated with harm to our brains.
- Multitasking can lead to memory problems.
- Multitasking can lead to increased distractibility.
- Multitasking increases chronic stress.
- Multitasking increases depression and social anxiety.
- Multitasking makes you less productive and less efficient.
- You are missing out on the NOW … you are missing out on life when you allow multitasking to become a habit in your life.
For my general EFS clients (and parents), we have also discussed the importance of focusing on one thing at a time. We will continue to establish meaningful, attainable, measurable GOALS during our sessions. It is so important that you come to our sessions with ideas on what you would like me to help you with – and together we will create an action plan with steps for you to get there.
For my Habits & Happiness clients (and parents), I feel like we have covered too much to even attempt to list here. Your motivation to actively and purposefully shift your day-to-day lives to align with what makes you feel more balanced, more authentic, and more joy is truly commendable. It is a process, as we have discussed. There will be steps forward, AND steps back…and that is okay. I am here to walk beside you, help you to understand what it is that you really want in life, and serve as your accountability partner as you commit to living your best life. Let’s continue to set goals, be flexible thinkers, give ourselves grace, and be mindful of the GOOD that is around us.
As mentioned in my previous monthly check-in, the majority of my EFS parents get copies of the session notes and you all are very in the know. For my Habits & Happiness clients (parents), that isn’t typically the case. Often what is discussed is most appropriate to be shared by my client and not necessarily by me. That said, please never hesitate to reach out if you have questions or concerns.
(If you are unsure if your parents get our session notes, feel free to ask me. You know how I am – no secrets! If you are questioning if they do get the notes though, my guess would be that they DON’T.)
Referrals – Thank you so much to the folks that have been sharing my name, number, and website. Almost all of my clients have come from word of mouth, and for that I am extremely grateful. Although my schedule is pretty packed right now, I would be thrilled if you continue to share my info. I will do my best to accommodate those that reach out, and I can certainly share resources and suggestions to those individuals that I am unable to fit into my current weekly schedule. The bottom line is that SO MANY teens and young adults could use this kind of support, but too often parents don’t even know that it is available. As of right now, I *should* be calling it full for high school students, but I do have daytime slots available for college folks and Habits & Happiness clients.
Finally, I wanted to remind everyone that I will be away from XXX. I will also be taking the Wednesday – Friday of Thanksgiving week off. November invoices will reflect this change in session totals.
Wishing you a wonderful day.
Warmly,
Michelle
Make no mistake that the things you say to yourself in the privacy of your own mind matters.
https://mbrockcoaching.com/blog-musing/our-patterns-of-unhelpful-thinking/